Friday, 2 August 2013
Eliminating And Overcome Shyness
Someone who is usually confident there is no more shame but not a shameless means dare / teeth. But that's only part of it, most people do not feel confident that the cause Shame.
There is also someone who dared to be embarrassed at the time and then make an embarrassing incident (ridiculous) / error / failure, if shame did not immediately remove from ourselves the shame it will kill creativity ourselves.
According to a psychologist, Bernardo J. Carducci, Ph.D., there are several things you can do to overcome shyness:
Out of view. When they made mistakes, we definitely felt the whole world was staring at us. Though this is a wrong perception. Most people spend their time thinking about themselves and not thinking of you. Knowing this will make you able to cope with the shame that came down on yourself.
Do not blame yourself. When we are aware of ourselves, we tend to think of any faults or failures due to our weakness, rather than thinking about the external factors that are likely to be the trigger. Do not be too imposes responsibility on yourself. Admit that you did wrong, but not because you are stupid, but because other people ask stupid questions to you.
Focus on the future. Rather than continuously reflect events that make you feel ashamed of yourself, better Think what you will do if the event occurs again. It will be able to make you more confident and will make you able to avoid the same mistakes in the future.
Take advantage shame. The shame is not always bad, sometimes there are benefits. Shame to show others that we are aware that we have made a mistake. When you feel embarrassed, you will surely face flushed, even if you do not explain in words, exactly the same as saying, "I'm sorry"