Friday, 2 August 2013
Create human in different gods other creatures, humans are given a feeling / heart / mind and should be able to manage it wisely. One is emotional control. Humans, we think. We can not live alone without the help of others. In society.
The human nature (Sense EMOTIONS / SAD) are formed during the process of human social experience in her life, nature, attitudes and human behavior is formed by several things: Family, Community around, Religion, Culture, and many others.
How to Control Emotions or Angry
We all have a sense of emotional / angry, some people can not control their emotions / anger to vent, but there is a different person, he was able to control his anger. I will try to provide an important record in controlling emotional / angry:
We must understand why YOU angry and looking for a solution then why Cold??
The better you understand yourself, then you will be the better able to control your anger. Anger is just a warning light. This is not your real problem. Because anger / emotion various kinds, no emotion when the job! there are also emotions in the household, there are emotional promiscuity? frustrating because there are emotions and so on.
We usually get angry because we feel threatened. Seemed like a cornered animal. It could also come when our self-esteem is attacked, when we are embarrassed, or when we are criticized. When Change your position, by walk - the road to a place that makes you fresh, while doing moderate exercise like stretching / jump jump so the negative feelings inside can be eased. The main one is the breath and exhale.
Stop and think before you react.
Focus your mind, before you talk to much in a tirade. Because often, when a person is angry, uncontrollable mouth to speak much before before we think calm. a word to the wise: "Intelligent people think before they speak.". anger (emotion) comes with an easy, positive thinking and calm is the key to anger management. you need to learn to delay your response (patient).
Someone who is usually confident there is no more shame but not a shameless means dare / teeth. But that's only part of it, most people do not feel confident that the cause Shame.
There is also someone who dared to be embarrassed at the time and then make an embarrassing incident (ridiculous) / error / failure, if shame did not immediately remove from ourselves the shame it will kill creativity ourselves.
According to a psychologist, Bernardo J. Carducci, Ph.D., there are several things you can do to overcome shyness:
Out of view. When they made mistakes, we definitely felt the whole world was staring at us. Though this is a wrong perception. Most people spend their time thinking about themselves and not thinking of you. Knowing this will make you able to cope with the shame that came down on yourself.
Do not blame yourself. When we are aware of ourselves, we tend to think of any faults or failures due to our weakness, rather than thinking about the external factors that are likely to be the trigger. Do not be too imposes responsibility on yourself. Admit that you did wrong, but not because you are stupid, but because other people ask stupid questions to you.
Focus on the future. Rather than continuously reflect events that make you feel ashamed of yourself, better Think what you will do if the event occurs again. It will be able to make you more confident and will make you able to avoid the same mistakes in the future.
Take advantage shame. The shame is not always bad, sometimes there are benefits. Shame to show others that we are aware that we have made a mistake. When you feel embarrassed, you will surely face flushed, even if you do not explain in words, exactly the same as saying, "I'm sorry"
Enormous power of positive thinking, positive mental attitude value is priceless. This is the value that should be owned by everyone. when can positive thinking then this is the beginning of success, inside and out. Positive thinking we can make if we have a habit in the bud by taking our life's journey, and art which must be acquired.
Here are tips for positive thinking and practical steps that allow positive thinking to be indelible part of your life, with positive thinking will make life fuller richer and happier.
Every day we should be learning. Read. Heard.
For inspiring experience, audio, movie, battles to conquer, adventure faced, obstacles overcome. There are people who have distilled the blood, sweat and tears into the wisdom books, tapes and courses. It is said that you become what you think about all day. Learn from and model. Associate themselves with people who think positively.
Psychologist Martin Seligman says that they are optimistic as likely to see problems as permanent, pervasive and personal. Instead of saying "I like this so doomed", / "Everything is finished." / "I'm no good". someone who thought SURE would see no way out, Optimistic sure that there will be better days.
The Lord has commanded man to be grateful for what he has received, and whatever happens, even though there are worse situations as his wife. If you still can breathe, you can still live gratefully. If you lost all of their possessions, there is something that you are grateful to have something to wear. There is always something to be thankful for. Gratitude opens beauty, calm and expand the mind. Gratitude brings joy. And has benefits beyond what you see-physiological, mental, psychological, spiritual, and even social. Be thankful. And blessed. With wife when you get something bad, God will replace it with something better.
Have we ever seen someone with a respected personality and very interesting? Whether it's a public figure, a teacher at school, a senior in college, or even our own friends? Seeing someone like this we will feel that this person has a classy personality. So how to we, the people who feel ordinary class could have a personality? Consider the following tips, which is a list of things that just do the ones with a classy personality. Not everyone knows these simple tips!
1. Classy people have the ability to Responsible.
If we want to be a classy person, we should really learn about responsibility. Classy people always ready to take responsibility for themselves. Never blame others and do not blame circumstances. And sometimes they accept responsibility for things outside their control such as the mistakes made by others. It is certainly not easy, but this is a classy way of looking at a problem. There's more other things, we do not just have to accept responsibility, but should make it look easy. If you feel like doing this troublesome class, we had to hide it somehow hassles.
2. Classy people never complain, criticize, condemn, etc..
Begin to commit ourselves, do not criticize, do not complain, do not be cursed, just do not, period. Why? The answer can we ask ourselves, are we glad to hear other people complaining? people who can only criticize? What we love the people who say rude to others? the answer is obvious.
3. Classy person can control his emotions.
A psychologist William James wrote "Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling occur together; by regulating the action, then we can indirectly regulate the feeling." In other words, if we act calm, then we will be a feeling of calm. This is helpful when we face an unpleasant situation, for example when we are emotional or agitated, try to be calm. And miraculously, the feeling will be quiet followed.
4. Classy people have the ability to listen.
Of various communication skills, listening is one of the important skills. Unfortunately, not everyone has good listening skills. Some people prefer to dominate the conversation and would rather listen to some half-hearted. Classy people have good listening skills. They can listen attentively so that other people feel happy to interact with them. For more details, can be seen again earlier post about Tips to Become a Good Listener.
5. Additional points owned by the class.
The following principles can help us become a better person. If we think of it, most of the additional points below must belong to the class of people we know. What are they?
Show a sense of respect for others, even if it is someone who is not favored. Never tell someone that he is wrong, he is an unpleasant person, and so on.
If we make a mistake, admit it was a mistake as soon as possible with the firm.
In the converse, let someone else talk much.
In the converse, let the other person feel that the idea was his idea.
In argument, to get the best - avoid.
There are many tips that actually I can and love it if only for their own use. Because the other tips I will definitely share also in other occasions.
In conclusion, by applying the above points certainly will not instantly conjure us to be a class act. But at least the above tips can surely make us a better person and a step closer to being a class act